Managing Ourselves, for better or for worse leadership?

Do how we manage ourselves in our personal lives, impact how we lead in business?  Interesting question to ponder.  Life throws curb balls at us, and ultimately, how we respond to those is our choice.  As leaders, how does our approach to our own lives affect or shape our leadership? 

            It is important to define what managing ourselves means.  For me, it means how clear and authentic my communication and behaviors are towards others, and the types of behaviors and conduct I allow or don’t allow into my life.  In other words, how elevated is our emotional intelligence?  If we manage our own actions and are selective of the behaviors we allow into our personal lives, it makes sense that these characteristics become a part of our leadership style.  On the flip side, if we struggle creating boundaries, are unclear in our requests of others, or allow others to impact our behavior, then these traits have the potential to get integrated into our professional demeanor.

From personal experience, I think effective leadership has a lot to do with a person’s emotional intelligence and less to do with intellect.  Now, don’t get me wrong; skills, professional expertise and education are very important, but if a leader doesn’t have emotional intelligence to compliment these hard skills, leadership will be less effective.

            When someone is actively working on enhancing their self-awareness, understanding the role they play in their own lives and are cognizant of how they respond to situations, I would argue they are better equipped to effectively lead teams, help employees  flourish and are more apt to have uncomfortable conversations.  Why, because fostering emotional intelligence creates belief, courage and a strong foundation in oneself.   When you know your own short comings, limitations and strengths, you can effectively maneuver through life and leadership, as well as help others be more aware.   When we are in tune and respectful of ourselves, we draw healthy boundaries and others know where they stand.  All the intellect in the world doesn’t guarantee emotional growth and awareness. 

            Emotional Intelligence is a significant key to effective leadership.  Understanding oneself helps you understand others, since we are all more similar than different.  Exceptional leadership means having skills, both emotional and intellectual, and when these traits are present in a leader it gives the best to those on the receiving end.    

Disclaimer: the advice in this blog is meant to provide guidance and be thought provoking.  It is the writer’s opinion only.